Monday was mine and my hubby’s seven year wedding anniversary! Unfortunately, Brennen came down with an ear infection so we were not able to celebrate it like we normally would. However, the hubby and I got each other a card (I love sappy cards!) and a small gift to mark the occasion.
In honor of our anniversary, I thought I would share seven things that I have learned in our seven years of marriage. And let’s face it, although I have already given you a list of seven random things about Brennen, one list of seven things in one week is really not enough. I was also able to coerce the hubby into giving me a list of seven things he has learned as well! (Note: The hubby and I did not talk about our seven things with each other before we created our lists.)
Here are my seven things.
1. Marriage is work. No really, it is. It is a lot of work! And both partners need to be working on the marriage in order for it to be successful. If one person isn’t putting in the effort, the marriage will suffer.
2. Your happiness can not be solely dependent upon your spouse. I spent a little bit of time thinking that it was my hubby’s job to make me happy. That plan never worked, it never made me happy. Instead, I realized that I had to make myself happy. To do that, I make sure to make time for myself by allotting part of each day to doing the things that I love. Like blogging and running. Ironically, my marriage benefits from my ‘me time’ as well. You know what they say, “A happy wife, is a happy home!”
3. Quality time is far better than quantity time. There are many days that pass where the hubby and I only see each other for a short amount of time. I have found that if we make the best of that time, we won’t really even notice that we didn’t have a lot of time together. On the flip side of that, we have both been guilty of spending a lot of time together but not really connecting during that time.
4. You will make mistakes. And I have made many of them. I have said and done some things out of anger that I have regretted. My hubby has made some mistakes too. Luckily, we both know each other enough to recognize when we are acting out of character and therefore give each other a pass on our behavior.
5. You will go through things that you would have never expected. Life is full or surprises. Some of them good and some of them bad. And most of them certainly can not be predicted. Having someone by your side to accompany you through life’s ups and downs makes the ride that much more enjoyable.
6. Having a child changes everything! If you have a child or know someone who has a child, I am sure you are well aware of this. But in all honesty, I don’t think the hubby and I realized how drastically our lives would be changed. Don’t get me wrong, Brennen is very loved and wanted. He has brought our lives a lot of happiness. However, the hubby and I had to adjust to our new life as a family as opposed to our old life as a couple.
7. I still have a lot to learn! As the years go by, the hubby and I continue to change as individuals which means that our relationship is continuously evolving as well. I am hoping that our journey has many, many more years ahead as I am convinced the best is still to come!
Here are the hubby’s seven things.
1. A happy wife is a happy home.
2. Being equal partners is very important.
3. It is not important who makes the most money. What is important is that there is enough money to pay the bills.
4. Family vacations are a necessity.
5. Find a hobby that you both enjoy. It is good bonding time.
6. Date nights are important. Once a week is ideal, but at least twice a month is a must!
7. Women need to be listened to. Listen to your wife when she vents, don’t try to solve the problem. It will just make things worse if you try.
The hubby and I each came up with very different yet slightly simliar lists. I have to say that I really love numbers 1 & 7 on the hubby’s list, most especially!
Now it is your turn! How many years have you been married or how many years have you been with your significant other? What have you learned during that time? Would your spouse or significant other have a different answer to that question?