I just finished reading the book The 5 Love Languages. If you have not already read it I highly recommend that you do whether you are married, dating or single. The premise of the book is that each of us has an emotional love tank that acts as a meter of how happy we are in a relationship. Ideally we want our love tanks to be overflowing with love but we all know that doesn’t always happen. The book says that the key to keeping your love tank full is to identify what love language you speak and have people in your life that speak that language to you on a regular basis. At the same time you should learn the love language of the people who you are close to so that you can make sure that their tank is full too!
The book also says that there are five different love languages or five different ways that people feel loved. They are: words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time and physical touch. I am not going to go into all of them, but if you want to learn more or if you want to take the quiz to learn what your love language is click here.
I took the quiz to find out what my love language is and it turns out I speak two of them equally! This makes Mr. Sarcastic’s job more
challenging fun, I am sure! My love languages are acts of service and quality time. So in a nut shell I feel loved when someone does things for me and when someone spends time with me.
This completely explains why I think nothing is hotter than a guy who does chores!
If on the other hand, the person that I am with doesn’t lift a finger I feel unloved and resentful.
I also need someone who is willing to spend time with me by giving me their undivided attention. Not all the time, but some of the time. Bonus points if the person does something with me that don’t necessarily interest them but does it anyways because they know it’s importance to me. Now that my friends, is love. On the flip side of that, if that person is with me but always distracted, not listening and refuses to do anything that I like to do, my love tank will feel pretty empty.
I really do believe that the ideas in this book extend beyond romantic relationships. Understanding what makes someone happy can truly impact every kind of relationship in a positive way. This world could use a little more love, don’t you think?
Have you read the book? What do you think about it? And if you are willing to share, what is your love language?