Chris and I reached a very big milestone in our relationship on Tuesday! We hit the one year mark!
It’s hard to believe that we have already been dating for one whole year. We have certainly experienced a lot in that one year. From getting to know each other, to meeting each others kids and families, going on multiple trips, holidays, break ups, make ups, and LOTS and LOTS of learning along the way.
I’ll be the first to say that the first year wasn’t perfect. And I certainly wasn’t the most perfect girlfriend. In fact, I can be pretty darn difficult (so can he by the way). But I can look back at it all and without a shadow of doubt I can tell you that I would not change a thing. Everything that we went through got us to where we are today and those things have made our relationship stronger and made us better people in general.
Dating at this stage of my life and most especially after divorce is much more complex than dating when I was in my 20’s. So many more variables come into play and there is the added stress of not wanting to make the same mistakes twice. I had to get past what I thought I needed and allow myself to embrace what I actually needed in order for me to move forward. It took a long time to realize that but I think I finally have. And I have Chris to thank for helping me get there.
Interestingly Chris and I are very opposite of each other. I used to think that I needed to date someone identical to me in order to have a happy and long-lasting relationship. But I have discovered that different is good. It keeps things interesting and fun and let’s be honest, I really don’t want to date myself even though I am pretty awesome.
When I think back on mine and Chris’s first date, the one thing that stands out the most is how right it felt to be with him. And it still does today. I am looking forward to many more years of driving him crazy. 🙂