This time of the year is always hard for me. Twenty one years ago, two days before Thanksgiving my Dad died suddenly of a heart attack. I was 13 and my brother was 10. Our lives were forever changed.
This year the anniversary of my Dad passing was yesterday, Thanksgiving. Ugh.
If you have ever lost a loved one you probably understand that no matter how much time has passed the void is always there. My Dad is never far from my mind any day of the year but come November and throughout the holiday season he is on my mind in a different way. Naturally around the anniversary of his passing I re-live that fateful day and time in my life. I can remember that day like it was yesterday. During this time I am not quite myself. I am more irritable, more sensitive, more reserved and just in general wanting more time and space to myself. These feelings come and go but usually dissipate after the anniversary date has passed however the entire holiday season is still a reminder of what I have lost.
I do not expect people who have not lost a loved one to understand what this feels like and quite frankly I am glad that there are people who have not experienced this type of loss. However, I think it is important for everyone to realize that although a lot of happiness and joy comes from the holiday season there are people who feel some sadness as well. And I am not just talking about coping with the loss a loved one. The reason for sadness during the holidays are numerous. Another example that quickly comes to mind are divorced parents. A giant downfall of being divorced is that come holiday time you have to share your children and this may mean that you may not have your child on one of the big holidays. That. Is. Hard. Again this is just another example of the many reasons why people experienced sadness during this time of the year.
I wrote this post not to bring a damper to the time but rather to bring awareness to the reality. If you are not someone who has sadness during the holidays then I guarantee that you know someone who does. So just be there for that person, give them an extra smile, call them, send them a text and do anything else you can think of to let them know that you care and are thinking of them. And hopefully this post will make you think twice before criticizing someone who doesn’t exactly seem over joyed during this joyous holiday season.