This post was inspired by Dataclysm: Who We Are (When We Think No One’s Looking) by OKCupid co-founder Christian Rudder, where he analyzes online data to find out that people who prefer beer are more likely to have sex on a first date. Join From Left to Write on October 9th as we discuss Dataclysm. As a member, I received a copy of the book for review purposes.
For some of you this will not come as a surprise but for those of you who are new to my blog you may not know this…….Chris and I met on a dating website. (To read more about that, click here.)
Crazy right? Well not really. I think a lot of people meet that way now.
The dating website that we met on was OkCupid and the book that I am currently reading, Dataclysm, is written by the co-founder of OkCupid. Because of that link I have been reminiscing about my time on OkCupid so I thought you all might want to reminisce with me.
I was only on OkCupid for seven days because I really didn’t want to be on a dating website but my friends put a profile up for me and I agreed to stay on it for a week. In that time I got a lot of messages from guys that were not worthy of a reply. Most of them were from guys that thought I was “hot” and were only looking for one thing. I even got a message from a guy that wanted to see if I could get him a job because my profile indicated I was a manager. I kid you not.
I did end up going on four dates with four different guys from OkCupid. Three of the four turned out to be duds but they make for funny stories.
The first guy I went out on a date with seemed to be a nice guy but when he saw my apartment (B and I were living in an apartment at the time) he started going on and on about how much money I must have because he didn’t live in an apartment as nice as mine and he could only imagine how much it would cost to live there. He continued to talk about money and how much money I must make etc etc. As you can imagine that got old fast and mind you, my apartment was nice but certainly not lavish. And even it was, you shouldn’t talk about money on a first date. That’s a no-no.
The second guy I went on a date with was also a nice guy but WAY to metro-sexual for me. I think it would have taken him longer to get ready for the date than it took me and that is just way too high maintenance for me.
The next guy I went out with was a total disaster. I met him at Dave and Buster’s and we played some of the arcade games. He got angry because I was beating him at all of the games. (Poor sport.) We then sat down at the bar to have a drink and he asked me if I would pay for our drinks…even though he was the one that asked me out. In addition to all of that, there was just no connection with this guy whatsoever so I ended up cutting the date short and telling him I had to leave. He asked if he could walk me to my car and then proceeded to try to make out with me. I pushed him off of me and then he asked me if I would drive him to his car. I did, although looking back that was far to nice of me. And then before I even got home he texted me checking to see if I had a good time and that he wanted to go out again. Which of course we didn’t.
Chris was the fourth date that I went on from OkCupid and as you all know, it went well! We obviously had more of a connection than the other three dates I went on and the tone of our dates were much more relaxed and comfortable. And well, the rest is history!
Have you used any dating sites? What was your experience like?